this one is actually one of my favorite memes. It’s up there with the “oh youre into pronouns? how about you let me she/them titties” Mario voice acted one

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    18 hours ago

    Not trying to be rude, just curious where she/they comes from? I would like to know what it means. The other ones I know but this one is lost on me.

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      means you can refer to the person as she, or as they.

      Could be used by transfems, cisfemmes, enbys, anyone who’s ok with being referred to as she or they when talking about 'em in the third person

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        I thought it was the word supposed to be the possessive. As in “her car”.

        Why does she/her use two words for female denunciation, is there a difference?

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      Transfem enby here - the way it works for me (can’t speak for anyone else) is essentially as two valid options. Some of my friends alternate, some stick with one, but if you’re going to pick just one then those are the correct options. Can’t guarantee it’ll be the same for others with multiple valid pronouns but most will be happy to explain if you ask. Personally I list them from most to least preferred but they’re both right so as long as it’s one of those I don’t care that much

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        I do the same. I guess it’d make more sense to write she/her/they/them but that’s long and everybody recognizes that the single slash represents pronouns so more looks weird.

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          she/her/they/them

          Just want to say, seeing this can be helpful and encouraging to people who are questioning and scared of saying or doing the wrong things. At least it was for me. There was a particular person I was following on social media that described herself as a ‘transfem enby’, who was probably the most instrumental in making me come to terms with myself, who listed all four of these pronouns. And seeing all of those pronouns made me think, “Oh, so the rules aren’t so black and white and this isn’t actually so scary and intimidating after all. I am valid in how I feel, even if I’m actually fine with any pronouns.”

          Of course, I’ve now seen ‘any’ listed as pronouns many times but when you’re not in these circles yet, you’re ignorant and go by what you see in media representation etc. Concepts that seem obvious to me now would’ve been beyond me before.

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      gendered/non-gendered mixes like that can be a little confusing at first. i’ve met folks with these chosen pronouns, and the answers i’ve gotten have ranged from “i’m happy with either” to “i’d prefer if you used both roughly the same amount”.

      anecdotally, they’ve also been some of the most chill folks i’ve met when it comes to messing up their pronouns! which is wonderful for me because my brain is a pile of rotting swiss cheese that can sometimes do math ^^

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        I’ve always understood them as either/or, although I always though people wput their preferred one first. Sometimes people will use both when they’re questioning or just want to test one out to see if it feels more comfortable, or sometimes they truly just don’t care.

        Though I remember someone once wanted each specific pronoun to be used depending on what you were saying (i.e. she went to the store where their friend was waiting), which I would try to respect but honestly that’s a whole other level of thinking and I can’t imagine most people being this particular.

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          I’ve thought about correcting people about my pronouns depending on how I’m feeling, but honestly I couldn’t even expect myself to get it right so I don’t.